Dear Mr. Ray, Rust, Suterland and others...

I have read a certain book that covers a certain topic… Picking up the same type of conversation on blogs24 earlier this week, I went basking in the late afternoon sun yesterday and mulled it over in my mind.
Now, before I get to the bottom of the well (subject), I'd like to emphasize my feelings about this 'topic':


It is a tired and tiresome subject (yawn);

A subject that does not deserve much thought;

A lean but tough subject;

A subject stretched so far out that the stretch-marks will never...will never fade;

A slack and worthless subject;

A subject that leaves a sour taste of curd sugarless milk on my palate.


You want to know why 'the topic' brings on a black and thunderous (murderous) mood?
Oh no-no-no guys, wrong! It’s not that I didn’t get any breakfast or the hormones raging or the fact that I'm slowly ageing… I’m just being assertive, but ladies we know that the lads might read it as aggressive. The male world, eh.

But let me say, I am pissed off with the general assumptions doing the rounds all over the world of UNMARRIED WOMEN who are seemingly tragically and WITHOUT choice despairingly sitting on the rack.


THIS IS NOT about divorcees. This is about us slightly older women who don’t have the balls to jump in and out of relationships on a weekly basis, get married every other week and join the throngs at the divorce-courts on a monthly basis.

Older Single Women are an alien species to men who like to believe the following :

She’s in her thirties (forties or older) and has never been married??? Un-fucking-belieeeevable!!!! Something must be very wrong there…

OH NO, no ovaries working there; may be menopausally crazy...

She always goes to church alone; never with a man. Maybe she’s a lesbian…poor old thing

If she likes hanging around her own place and not getting drunk like a slut in public all the time, she must be a freak.

Definitely something askew with that old bag who likes to blog – maybe she is too ugly or sad to have real friends in real life

Well I always see that chick at this pub/restaurant and she never has been seen with a man. Can’t get one, I presume…

No boyfriend for ages or years? Wow, maybe she is a virgin (dads can think this about their daughters too)

She must be slow or ugly... if you want to introduce that old maid to me ...........

Women in the chat-rooms are soooo good, they meet my sexual fantasies…I’ll never have to meet and have strings attached to the faceless cow and sad creature too-oooooo....


A lot of older women prefer (sometimes with little choice) to live their lives to the best of their ability, without being dictated. Why give up ones hard-earned values to men without integrity?

Guys watch your thoughts and tongues.

Women are more than a pair of pretty eyes, legs or perty boobs. We don’t have to be patronized into the belief that we’re not good enough simply because of the prejudiced world of men. You older guys can be quite neatly screwed up too, so I believe. So it can be that older women don’t always settle for second best. Unfortunately its gets harder when we leave the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s behind. I’m beginning to feel the effect of ‘depression’ and see it all around me and in my women buddies lives too.

Guys this might hurt, but perhaps a lot of you have baggage. We don’t want your baggage for the simple reason that we don’t have any and don’t want to share those which you so selflessly offer to us. I really don’t fancy sharing your baggage; life’s hard enough as it is.

So older women, if men look at you with a suspicious squint eye as to why you haven’t tied the knot yet or before… or why your relationships never exceed two years maximum… well, why worry about men old, bold and cold who harbors such crude or useless imaginations?

In SA I can’t walk into any old pub or chat to any old fool, because I have learned that people here do get the wrong ideas.

Guitar man who does gigs; he could not ‘get it’ swiftly and so opted to dump a friendship for something easier elsewhere. Dumb twit.

I think I am sexy and smart; but most men don’t like girls that don’t have money or a glamorous job or flashy car (and mine always need a wash; if anyones up for it for no extra pay).

A lot of men don’t like a woman with a mind of her own; something must be wrong with her

Men want to be worshipped – why, if I want a true friend instead of a hairy god in my life?

Men want us to be pretty and perfect and in a man’s life anyone older than 30 can’t possibly be those. Men want stupid buttocks bimbos; cheap horny tarts, or submissive throw-away-able doormats without spunk.

Gmf.

Surely not…in…my…life.